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The top 22 things men desperately want in a relationship:
1. Praise him.
The Need: To hear your approval and admiration
Satisfy It By: Complimenting him regularly
Men have surprisingly vulnerable egos so let your praise loose. Take time to remind your partner what you like about him and reassure him about all his qualities.
Don’t worry, it won’t boost his ego to the point of insufferability.
Tell your partner exactly what you find attractive about him and praise him for his skills.
Compliment him whenever he does something nice for you. You’ll find that little words of encouragement will make him feel loved.
The more you praise his positives, the more you will see and appreciate them too.
2. Give him some space.
The Need: To have some quiet time alone
Satisfy It By: Being mindful of his time
Having alone time is essential for every person. It lets us re-energize, regroup, and reconnect with ourselves.
This is especially true for men, who are more inclined towards independence rather than intimacy.
Giving him enough space and time for himself will keep him from feeling suffocated by the relationship.
Let your man roam and keep to himself every now and then. Allow him to unwind once he gets home from work and be mindful about making too many plans when he has free time.
He’ll appreciate your trust in him and your shared bond when you let him breathe.
3. Allow him to be vulnerable.
The Need: To have a safe space for his emotions
Satisfy It By: Being there for him and helping him heal
From a very young age, society teaches men to avoid looking weak. Signs of “weakness” are crying, complaining, divulging fears, or expressing doubts.
This is why as men mature, it takes them time to open up emotionally.
As a partner, you have to nurture him when he lets the cracks in his armour show.
When he first cries in front of you, he needs to be sure that you won’t be turned off or handle it poorly.
You have to learn how to help him work through negative emotions such as sadness or fear without pushing him away.
Otherwise, you will never be able to bridge that emotional gap.
4. Make him feel like a ‘hero’.
The Need: To feel needed.
Satisfy It By: Make him feel appreciated when he steps up for you
According to James Bauer’s hero instinct theory, men want to feel like your Superman – not your Clark Kent.
They want you to be impressed by the things they do and would hate for you to look down on them.
It’s difficult to pin down exactly what will make your partner feel this way best, but you can try asking him for help every now and then.
Show him that you value his opinions and cherish his advice. Always express how much you look up to his competency and never humiliate him when he doesn’t live up to your expectations.
5. Be physically affectionate.
The Need: To experience non-sexual touch
Satisfy It By: Caressing him every now and then
While men enjoy having sexual access to their partners, they also need non-sexual affection as well.
Simple things like touching his hair, neck, or cheek lovingly can reaffirm your physical and emotional connection.
Touch is an interpretation of physical love. It will turn him on and it tells your man that you love him and want him to feel happy all the time.
It is also a reminder that you are by his side and that you care for him deeply.
6. Reassure him you’re in this for the long run.
The Need: To have a sense of security
Satisfy It By: Building his trust in you
Both men and women want certainty in a relationship. If a man feels like his partner is truly invested in the relationship for the long haul, he will be more ready to commit to her.
Aside from reassuring your man that you won’t leave him, there are other areas to consider as well.
Men will feel more secure if he knows you approve of him and his career.
He would also be more confident about the relationship if he knows you trust him enough not to snoop through his messages, or call him every hour when he’s out with his friends.
There are also signs he doesn’t want anyone else to have you.
7. Tell him it’s okay if he makes a mistake.
The Need: To feel accepted and supported
Satisfy It By: Giving him unconditional love and understanding
Inside every man is a little boy who forgets he shouldn’t leave the toilet seat up or say the wrong thing to your friends.
He also probably has a curious mind and a short attention span – but remember: you are his partner, not his mother. It’s not really your job to nag at him if he does something wrong.
If he slips up and makes a mistake, talk to him about it calmly and reassure him that it’s okay.
This shows him you support and accept him unconditionally, even if he slips up every now and then.
Once he knows you understand him, he will be motivated to become a better man for you.
8. Be a little playful.
The Need: To have some fun
Satisfy It By: Not taking yourself too seriously
A lot of women are experts at organization and multitasking, which can be draining for men.
It’s really easy to get wound-up thinking about your to-do list, so why not be a little spontaneous and let loose together?
Men like to see it when you let go of control and enjoy the moment with him. Don’t be afraid to show him your sense of humor because this shows him you’re comfortable and relaxed with him.
After all, life is too short to be so serious about everything; your partner will appreciate sharing inside jokes and having adventures with you.
10. Treat him to romantic gestures.
The Need: To feel love through actions
Satisfy It By: Wooing him
Many people don’t realize that men want romance as much as women do.
Men tend to show their love through actions more than words, so wooing your man through sweet gestures will remind him that you love him.
While they won’t expect flowers or chocolates from you, your partner probably won’t mind if you occasionally send him a cute text or kiss him on the cheek for no particular reason.
Making little impromptu gestures will show that you are passionate and generous in your relationship.
11. Take an interest in his hobbies.
The Need: To share his passions with you
Satisfy It By: Asking plenty of questions and spending time with him
Just as women enjoy their partners taking an interest in their hobbies, so do men.
Now, you may not share all the same interests as him.
He loves movies, you prefer to read. He likes jogging but you enjoy surfing.
It’s easy to stop showing interest once you’ve decided that you don’t like something, but that’s forgetting an important fact – he still likes it.
So even if you don’t plan on joining him every time he plays racquetball or goes to the cinema, it won’t hurt to tag along sometimes (and encourage him to do the same with you).
Think about it this way:
By showing you what gets him passionate about life, or what brings him immense joy to do as a pastime, he’s letting you into his very own little world.
Not only will you get a better understanding of him, but he’ll begin to feel a deep sense of connection now he can share this part of himself with you.
And if he’s the type of guy who prefers to do it alone, that’s okay. You can still ask him questions, just to show you still have an interest.
12. Accept him for who he is.
The Need: To be able to be 100% himself
Satisfy It By: Decreasing judgment and criticism
We all want to feel accepted, by our parents, friends, and especially by our partners.
And since many of us deal with insecurities that stem right from childhood, finding a partner who can truly accept us as we are is rare.
But if you can learn to overlook the small stuff, be there for him regardless of what he’s going through, and hold back on the judgment?
He’ll feel like he’s in the best relationship in the world and it’ll allow him to just breathe and be who he wants to be, without any fear of criticism.
13. Stick to your word.
The Need: To know he can count on you
Satisfy It By: Being dependable and trustworthy
Trust in a relationship is a must, for men and women.
At the heart of it, men just want someone they can confide in. Someone they know will have their back and won’t let them down.
When you say you’ll pay the bills or pick up the dry cleaning, he wants to be able to put it out of his mind, secure in the knowledge that you’ll do it.
Let’s face it, there’s nothing worse than losing faith in your partner, but if you can show him a high level of trust, it’ll strengthen your relationship immensely.
14. Respect him.
The Need: To feel your approval and trust
Satisfy It By: Letting him be in charge for some things
Many men think that they should protect and provide for the people they love. If he feels like you disapprove of him somehow or have no faith in his capabilities, he will have a hard time learning to trust and love you.
The lack of respect towards him and what he wants in life will also make him question if you really want what is best for him.
15. Encourage his ambitions.
The Need: To feel supported in his dreams
Satisfy It By: Cheering him on
Whether he wants to run the marathon or he’s going for a big promotion at work, every man wants to know his partner is right next to him, supporting him in reaching his goals.
And the truth is, many men, just like women, struggle with confidence and self-esteem, but your belief in him could be the driving force to help him achieve his dreams.
When it comes to relationships, we’ve all got our aspirations and hopes for the future, but the key is to encourage and support each other in getting there together.
If you can do that with him, he’ll appreciate it and always do his best for himself, you, and the relationship.
16. Be his partner.
The Need: To feel like he’s in a complete partnership
Satisfy It By: Being more than just a girlfriend or wife
Here’s the thing – when a guy invests his all into a relationship, he wants it to be more than just average.
Instead of playing just one role of the girlfriend, be his everything – his companion, his friend, his confidant, the person he can look to no matter what the situation is.
Be the person who gets him excited about life and the possibilities of the future. Encourage growth and development personally and within the relationship.
The truth is:
By being a true partner, you can go above and beyond the requirements of a relationship, you can create a partnership together.
17. Be willing to communicate and compromise.
The Need: To be able to resolve problems
Satisfy It By: Avoiding destructive arguments
Now, that’s not to say you can’t ever argue with your partner, it’s inevitable. But, you can make sure arguments are kept calm and dealt with maturely.
A good tip to try is to visualize the “problem”, the reason for the argument, as separate from the pair of you.
Once you’re able to detach from it, finding the solution becomes a lot easier because you’re both working together, instead of fighting against each other.
If he sees you’re trying your best to communicate even when it’s tough, and you’re open to compromise instead of playing blame games or being manipulative, it’ll make him respect you even more.
18. Make honesty a top priority.
The Need: To feel secure and safe
Satisfy It By: Always being truthful
We’ve mentioned how important trust is, but one of the best ways to build it in a relationship is simply by being honest.
Even when it comes down to “harmless” little white lies, over time these can build up and your partner will start to lose trust in you…we’ve all read the story of the boy who called wolf.
Men need to feel like they can trust your word and know that you aren’t going to hide anything from them. They need a completely transparent partner.
Without it, he’ll always second guess whether he can truly open up to you and trust you with his vulnerabilities.
19. Maintain your independence.
The Need: To keep the attraction
Satisfy It By: Having a life of your own
It’s no surprise that attraction can fade, especially if you’ve spent many years together.
But, it’s a key element of every healthy relationship, so how can you keep it up in yours?
To start with, having some independence and creating a fulfilling life for yourself will make you a lot more interesting to your partner than if you’re sat by his side all day.
He’ll look forward to hearing about your day, and it’ll give him a chance to miss you. Let’s face it, guys don’t want a clingy, needy relationship where they don’t have any time for themselves.
And the most important part:
A confident, independent woman is a major turn-on, so not only will it improve the relationship, it’ll give the sex life a boost too.
20. Always be faithful.
The Need: To feel being committed to
Satisfy It By: Staying loyal to him
A bit of jealousy is harmless in relationships – it’s a natural feeling and it shows how much you don’t want to lose your partner.
But only a little bit.
Anything more, and most men will start to lose faith in the relationship very quickly. And if it comes down to an affair, well, the damage is even worse.
Be mindful of this during your relationship, don’t play games or go overboard in making him feel jealous whenever you want to provoke a reaction from him.
All too often this can backfire, so focus on communicating clearly with him if your needs aren’t being met and finding a solution together.
Because ultimately, a man wants to know that he’s the only one for you. So make sure you have the characteristics of a loyal person.
21. Make him feel like a priority.
The Need: To feel valued
Satisfy It By: Being considerate of his needs
It pays to know the characteristics of an alpha male in a relationship. No one wants to be just an option, especially not in a relationship. Men crave to be the number one person in your life, and they need to see that you value and prioritize them.
And a bit of consideration is all you need to do it.
When you know he’s had a bad day, turn off your favorite show and take his mind off things. If a special birthday or anniversary is coming up, make an effort to show him how much you love him.
It’s these small acts that will remind him how much he’s valued, and in return, he’ll make you and the relationship a priority in his life too.
22. Call him out when he’s wrong.
The Need: To keep grounded
Satisfy It By: Being firm but fair
Since we all have different ways of dealing with confrontation, this will be harder for some than others.
Essentially, a man wants to know that his partner can stick up for herself, even to the point where his ego gets put back in line every so often.
Now, a common misconception is that guys just want a girl who’ll be submissive, never argue back, and always agree.
But the truth is, real men, want a partner they can respect.
Someone who won’t take their crap, but is also mature enough to communicate and work through the issue.
What they don’t want is someone who will bottle it all up and then one day explode, potentially causing even more damage to the relationship through built-up resentment.
So, if you can learn how to keep him grounded even when the tough gets going, he’ll undoubtedly develop more respect for the relationship and you.
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