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When you are alone, life, at first glance, it seems
And, initial impressions, the survey shows that married people martokheleb moderately more, and much more gankortsinebuleb happy. But a more in-depth research shows that, if married people are divided into two parts, badly married couples over Take care of them, and much more unhappy than single people, married couples and even well - is more happy than another's eyes can be seen.
In short, this is the reality:
Ordinary single people consider themselves to be over in the neutral position due to the fact that the two other categories were. Single people happiness in one step to: 1) find a partner; In turn, the terrible relationship with people of the same three steps away to: 1) transfer scary part 2) spiritually and emotionally recovered 3) to find a partner.
All this research shows that the big difference between lucky and unlucky couples. All this is up to your partner.
Thinking about whether it is necessary to select the right partner, the same as the world we are so difficult for us to do pikri- ukideganobasa and death simukhtle of perceiving the end, we reject his chqletva on, and we do too inconsistent.
But, unlike death and in an infinite universe, the choice of partner is in your hand. So the essential autsileelia, realize, do you consider all of the factors that you need for all of this.
Briefly.
Let's start with the 90 since. How many years did not have to live, it's been, who with your partner must gaataro- Add / subtract.
Perhaps the 80-year-old man, do not read here, therefore, believe me, a lot of time: everything is in your hand.
(Of course, people are moving away from each other, but plenty good you are sure that you do not izav. Recent research shows that 86% of young people believe that their life will be the same. And I think that older people are thinking differently.
When choosing a life partner, you have chosen everything, altogether, your parent's properties, full partners, and a man who deeply affect your children; You choose 20 000 dinner or supper, and, somewhere, 100 travel companions; And just in time for your friend, and your career terapistsa person whom the party and the 18000 does understand.
Horrible.
But, with so many smart, logical and right-minded human hands, why do we have to a lot of people, who on the advice of an abandoned, hurt and destroyed?
It turns out that a lot of factors that operate against us:
People do not know what they want from the relationship Studies show that people with bad and incorrect understanding is, when and how they will continue to observe the relationship in the future. One study showed that people in the very near future to change the taste and values, and for a moment shortly after the preference for something completely different than before.
It did not do much until Surprisingly araa- one thing, tsesivrad never doing it. And, unfortunately, many people do not have a chance to show his abilities to use many times and many times try one thing, until a serious decision. Not a lot of time. And from the fact that urtiertobrivi "I" and the real human "I" Some people are often very different, people just do not know what they want and / or need to communicate what it is.
All public poorly understands and gives a bad example
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invites the public to the fact that we remain uneducated and romantic as our guide
If you have any business, is essential for the more effective you are a business owner, if you learn the business, sets goals, plans, and analyze your business issues. This is logical, because this is a wonderful way to increase efficiency and minimize errors.
But for someone to walk in school, where the choice of life partner taught, and give it a healthy relationship, if you explain to them in detail the correct methods of choosing a partner, people would say that this person is a) the beginning to the end of the robot b) overly concerned 3) crazy
No, when it comes to meetings, the society does not try to rely on well, and the trust in exchange for the future, fortune, his own "ass", and hopes for the best. Business owners listen to the people, you might lose, and if it gaumartlebda- only luck would have it, and that's exactly what they ask us to do to society, viurtiertot.
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ruins the society stigmatizes our efforts to intelligently look for potential partners.
According to the research, what dominates our decision: our elections / tastes of our abilities, are set to opportunities to talk about it
In short, people are surrendering and chooses from there, but she was at that moment to have, no matter how bad or inappropriate are shekhamsebuli pair. It is logical to conclude that all those who are looking for a partner in life, to give up the line-peer communication, if paemnebsa meetings, and other systems, which form so that our choices do intelligently.
But the head of the public still poorly watched all this, and still feel awkward to say that they met in a dating partner. Choosing valued partner and a method for people to trust the fate of pointless, at first sight, etc. Choose To our benefit, the stigma is slowly disappearing, but this tradition is still reflected in our everyday choices too illogical.
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of us
Today, the rule is that you should marry until he had grown old, and youth, usually considered to be age 25-35. Whatever it is, it's still the only law rcheba- never marry him, who is not your. But the 37-year-old man with a bad eye daujakhebel than 35-37 years unhappily married "a" tsqvils- two children. There is no one-has-a rookie move away from a happy marriage, but the latter temporarily or disaster should beat, or a terrible separation, in order to find himself again.
biology have gvindobs
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Human Biology, have been formed, and does not understand the people fifty coexistence, mutual understanding and a deep connection to the concept of
When someone at the start, and to small still see your brain around all this, our biology, we buried one big trap, make us "why not", and provides us with such substances, which are sexually migvizidivas partner, to divert us from the "love" phase, and the tolerance of. When you can afford to re-experience the same look and the other, our brains chemically gvshkhamavs job and fulfilling marriage.
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the biological clock of the great whore A woman who wants to have biological children from her husband, a small restriction: forty years old he should be able to take out or to qvelaperi- or Krasny. Noxious this reality and all of the above is even more asazizrebs. If I were, son take of "right" partner, rather than a biological child, I got a "wrong" partner.
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So, when a lot of people to see that all of this opinion is: do not know what or why they have to interact with it, and the public also insisted that the time to do everything to make the body's chemical side is not left heart broken, analyze everything and try to make the choice to do it. What do we get in return.
A lot of bad things, a lot of hasty decisions, and a lot of people who are most important to their decision to pack. Let us consider some of the most common type of people who succumb to the public and at the end of a broken hearts left arms.
too romantic Lasha
Lasha overly romantic main problem is that he thinks only of love and enough ground, he got married.
Overly romantic man ignores the inner voice, which, for months, dictates that his daughter has grown fed up with the fighting, and those who do not pay attention to that before much was happy, until he was alone. Stands and says, "Everything has a cause and what is happening is not just a coincidence" and "Oh, I love and that's all, the rest do not care." As soon as people believe there is something romantic, heart-throb has found that, taking everything and 50 years of knocking on the doors of the poor live.
alarmists Tamuna
Panic and fear, perhaps, the worst of the decision-makers countries as well. When it comes to the choice of partner is clear. Unfortunately, society has a structure that is the most normal and sensible people to make us their slaves, and pulls the wrong decisions, and this often happens at the age of 20-25. Types of fear (which inspires friends and family) follows:
of the fact that the most recent single type of friends you will be elderly parents, sometimes, or gachorili gankitskhuli be . All this leads to the type of relations is not so good.
The irony is that the only thing they have to fear, is that the remaining two-thirds life unhappy not to spend, the wrong partner.
Gaga over-dependent on others
Gaga over-dependent on other people to give, too large a role to play in her life and in decision-making, especially in the selection of a partner. Choose your partner's too personal, terribly secret and everyone else's eyes see different ramea- impossible: no matter how close to know the person. When other people's opinions have no place in your life, often, very often the case and always breaking down.
One example of this is the most painful parting with a person who would be the right partner for him not to be a factor, which is itself heavily hangs Gaga (eg. Religion), but the shy family and friends circle.
Conversely can be: everyone in the family thought that their relationship has hit the top ten, but the inside of a bad mark, but Gaga own opinion instead of the family and the family of the family to listen.
Surface Maka
Maka and her boyfriend watch her more superficial appearance of the relationship, rather than the inside. He did not care about the partner's personality and inner "I". Lots blankia, romlitatsaa interested, for example, partner height, weight, activity, prestige, property, or more special things, for example, any special talent or achievement.
Everyone has such moments, when such, form factors such monitors, but this is so shallow Maka invaded everything, more important, useful things are no longer paying attention.
Sandro selfish
Selfishness manifested in three basic versions:
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or I or Type idinakhui The person who believes that his or her wishes and needs are more important than their partner. He really does not want any relations, but wants to pursue his own life, people just need a companion who needs satisfied.
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The main characters
The main character in the biggest drawback is that it is too much of ourselves is a good human. It simultaneously to people who will appreciate it and at the same time assist the terapistada as a partner. Each day ends with a review of the incident, but 90% of the cases we are talking about the problems of the boy, the boy's everyday life of the boy and not the girl falls on everything. Anyway, it's relations with its main characters. The only thing he wants from this world motsqvetaa, which needs a man who in 50 gausazizghrebs.
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meet God Everyone has needs, and everyone wants to daukmaqopldes, but then it all becomes a problem when the "good father", "Good in Bed", "but bakes", "hard-generating" and so becomes the main reasons for starting a relationship. Sachiroebebia it all, but the point is that they are the only requirements. So, after one year of marriage in the past, it still needs to meet the desires of God and no longer able to do it quickly destroys relationships, and family harmony (?).
All for the cause, so that people with cuts to the heart, the main reason is that people gautsnobierebelia of what is the relationship, what they want from it, and what brings happiness.
This post has been edited by Irakli2013 on 2 Feb 2017, 00:01 
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